Two Lists of Tens

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR THE FORMERLY MARRIED

  1. THOU SHALT NOT LIVE IN THY PAST.
  2. THOU SHALT BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THY PRESENT AND NOT BLAME THY PAST FOR IT.
  3. THOU SHALT NOT FEEL SORRY FOR THYSELF INDEFINITELY.
  4. THOU SHALT ASSUME THY END OF THE BLAME FOR THY MARRIAGE DISSOLVEMENT.
  5. THOU SHALT NOT TRY TO RECONCILE THY PAST AND RECONSTRUCT THY FUTURE BY A QUICK, NEW MARRIAGE.
  6. THOU SHALT NOT MAKE THY CHILDREN THE VICTIMS OF THY PAST MARRIAGE.
  7. THOU SHALT NOT SPEND ALL THY TIME TRYING TO CONVINCE THY CHILDREN HOW TERRIBLE AND EVIL THEIR DEPARTED PARENT IS.
  8. THOU SHALT LEARN ALL THOU CAN ABOUT BEING A ONE-PARENT FAMILY.
  9. THOU SHALT ASK OTHERS FOR HELP WHEN THOU NEEDEST IT.
  10. THOU SHALT ASK GOD FOR THE WISDOM TO HEAL YESTERDAY, CREATE TODAY, AND PLAN FOR TOMORROW.

 

TEN “DON’TS”

  1. DON’T TOTALLY WITHDRAW FROM LIFE.
  2. DON’T DENY THE WAY YOU FEEL.
  3. DON’T BACK AWAY FROM RELATIONSHIPS.
  4. DON’T PUT YOURSELF DOWN FOR FEELING VULNERABLE.
  5. DON’T BE SURPRISED AT SUDDEN PHYSICAL PROBLEMS.
  6. DON’T DWELL ON THE UNFAIRNESS OF IT ALL.
  7. DON’T BASE NEW RELATIONSHIPS ENTIRELY ON TRYING TO PLEASE THE OTHER PERSON.
  8. DON’T RUSH INTO RE-MARRIAGE.
  9. DON’T MAKE THE VISITS WITH YOUR CHILDREN A SERIES OF SPECTACULARS.
  10. DON’T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT SOMETIMES BEING AWAY FROM YOUR CHILDREN.